Friday, February 22, 2013

Stepping Up

I don't write as often or as frequently as I thought I would. I have decided that when the universe keeps pushing sometimes you just need to go with the flow. Within the course of one week two situations arose where I had to decide to act or just walk away. I thought they were worth writing about.

Recently with all the weather fluctuations I got the flu which I haven't had since 2002. Having two dogs I couldn't do my former routine of just laying in bed or on the couch. During one of my walks out of the blue a beautiful husky named Smokee came running at me and one of my dogs(I walk them separately). First I thought great all I need is a confrontation but all they did was the usual canine custom of sniffing each other. I did notice he had a tag with his name and two phone numbers. Then poof off he went running back across the street. As we continued our walk I noticed he was darting in and out of yards and streets. The street we were on is in a quiet residential area with little traffic and a speed limit of 25. Well here comes a car flying past with the window open I yelled "Slow the f@#k down" thankfully this loud yell made the driver stop all together. Smokee was safe on my side of the street and the driver, after shouting a litany of swear words that could have made a sailor blush, drove away. I called for Smokee to come and he did. He was well trained so I had a decision to make. I have a home with an enclosed patio within a nice backyard my choice was made. I called Smokee and put him on the patio. I called the numbers on his tag, his owners came and got him. They were so happy to have him home again.

Two days later I was walking my other dog who is still a puppy of 8 months(70 pounds) and we stopped to talk to one of the neighbors. I saw one of the neighborhood children standing across the street just staring I called out come on over. I figured the wait was for me to cross and to pet my pup. The children are helping me by helping him get over his fear of children. They are very patient and protective of him when new children come around.

I need to back track a bit here and explain why this big puppy is afraid of children. When he was six weeks old I lived in a different home where there were a lot of kids. Whenever I would take the pup out, the kids in the complex thought it was funny to run or ride up on him on their bikes or scooters while he was going potty. So he became scared of all three; bikes, scooters but especially loud running children.

Okay now back to the present, the child pet my pup and then politely stood there. We continued our adult conversation and my neighbor noticed the child was still there. Our conversation would not be of  interest to a young child so the neighbor changed topics and included the child into the mix. During the course of the conversation we found out that the police had been called out to the home where the child lives by one of the neighbors that morning. The call was made due to loud noises coming from the house. It was late afternoon now my neighbor went back to his project and the child came back across the street with me to my home. It was getting chilly and all the child had on was a thin t-shirt. I asked shouldn't you be going home? The reply, I can't my parents are drunk and fighting. I asked if the child's bedroom would prevent hearing the arguing. The child said even with the volume all the way up the slamming and yelling could still be heard which made the child sad. In addition to that, the child felt and knew that by going home the fighting would be worse because then they would yell at each other for fighting in front of their child. I was in a pickle then, I don't have children but I knew I had to do something without compromising myself or the child.  I don't/didn't mind being thought of as a safe haven but there had to be boundaries especially since we live in such a litigious and cynical environment. So I asked if sitting alone on my patio alone was ok since I was sick and couldn't be outside. The reply, yes that would be fine. So I got one of my thick jackets and wrapped the child up in it. I did insist that when it got dark it was time to go home which was only a few houses away. The child replied that the grandfather would be home soon then it would be okay to go inside. I asked what time would that be? It should be in two hours which was 7pm well after dark. So I asked where will you wait? The reply, where I usually do on the gravel behind the bushes. My heart dropped this wasn't the first time this has happened. I knew at least I could look down the street periodically and ensure that the child was warm and okay.

I reached out to various people to get advice and how to proceed in the situation that evening. The advice varied from wait until it happens again, call Child Protective Services or the police. In regards to calling the police, the advice was that since the incident had just happened call and ask for the investigating officer. This was the route I chose to take. The police informed me that they had been out to the residence four times on the day in question. The information I provided would be documented in the open investigation. They thanked me for looking out for the children in our community. I found this to be an odd statement before I could ask about it they said most people do not get involved especially when children are involved.

I asked what actions should I take or tell my neighbors to take going forward in regards to this situation or any situation where a child is involved. Here is the advice I received:

1. If the child is sitting outside call the police and inform them that you were instructed by the investigating officer(if this has happened before) to call it in. If it is something/someone new call it in and indicate that you have seen a child who could be in a distressed situation. In either case you can remain anonymous.

2. If you have a relationship with the child and should they show up at your home take them in and then call the police. This protects both you and the child. They will then come to your home and take the child home and investigate further. If the child becomes scared for whatever reason inform the police of that as soon as they arrive so they can find out the cause of the fear.

3. If you are a neighbor who lives within ear shot of homes where you know children reside call the police whenever you hear excessive verbal loudness specifically arguing or things being broken. Again you can remain anonymous the purpose of the call is to protect the young who live in the home. No child should have to witness that type of violence. Some children may think that is acceptable behavior and the cycle is repeated. We as responsible adults have the ability to prevent that from happening.

I thank you for reading this and I apologize for any grammatical errors and the repetition. I am not used to writing in third person but I have to protect the child by not revealing locations, names or gender. As we all know once something is on the internet it is there forever and anyone can come across this blog. Even if only one child is helped by this blog I will know I have been of service.

I will end this with what I have chosen to use as my signature in my email.


Do not sit by and do nothing because of fear or feel that your lone voice won't make a difference. Stand up and be counted, be the voice for those who can't speak for themselves against evil whether it be for animal, humanity or the earth. Speak out against what you know to be wrong and bring to light and praise to what you know to be right. 

As Edmund Burke stated so eloquently ~
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing" 

Love & Peace,
Crystal Spirit Guide

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Journey/Destination/Reality Hello Seriously

I usually try to stay up beat or try to share some thing I find interesting in my posts but with this one not so much. I have been without consistent (ie only emergencies) verbal contact with people for over a month. I have been bitched out because I am fiscally responsible. Oh well deal with it.

There was a death in the family a few days ago my sis-in-law's (I introduced her to my brother since she and I were friends first) ex-husband died in the bathroom alone, in his assisted living residence. There was a very unique relationship that developed in that my brother, the new husband, and the ex got along and became good friends. They would go out and have lunch or chat, that is not a very common occurrence. So it is very sad time for all.

Today also makes the two week anniversary, June 16,
since my best friend and companion died in my arms.

So all in all I am not in the best of spirits, my one refuge since I have had a hard time reading for awhile now(due to my inability to focus) is watching TV, trust me there aren't too many uplifting and funny things there. Can't garden due to heat and meds with heat etc.

All the people who "cared and worried" so much when I was on twitter and was an available cause for them stopped communicating in any form. I deleted my account and then I get "oh why did you delete your account" seriously folks I am forty fucking eight I have seen too many deceivers, usurpers and liars that I can spot them right away unfortunately my weakness and vulnerability due to illness a few people slipped under the radar. I doubt they will ever read this but trust me YOU are the primary reason I deleted my twitter account that and all the BS going on. I prefer the handful of true blue people who are loving and genuine (and give tough love when needed but trust me right now is not the time to give it)

It has been said:

"It's not the destination, but the journey that counts"

Okay so what if there is no destination, does that mean there is no journey thus implying no life or life lessons learned? What if just living is the destination? Well hell if that is the case I have learned a lot of shit I didn't need to. There are great examples listed below(hint look for the word narcissism)

A little sarcasm here, But could there be anymore reality shows out there? Anytime I talk to anyone they say no I don't watch that BS well someone must be watching them cause they are still on the air and reproducing like rabbits. Have we lost the ability to live our own lives and be content or must we watch how other people live and live vicariously through them? I wonder is it to make themselves feel better to see other people doing better and or maybe worse off than them. Do I care if you can Dance, Sing, Sing in a group ummmmmmmm NO!!!!! So don't look for my vote....

OMG can TNT have ANY more commercials (Lord knows I am thankful for DVR's.)? I can see why so many shows get renewed they have a lot of sponsors out there who want them to succeed, lots of money to be made, in them there commercials. I have seen commercial/trailers, (don't know what they are called) for hoarders, intervention, and the how different stars live their lives. I could care less, they have no impact on my life. Wait I missed my favorite, all the talk in the hospital by the nurses is The Bachelorette. So lets all go out and get on lets see hmmm, Eharmony, match,plenty of fish, Jdate, I am sure I have missed a few and or for the religious at heart not judging just sharing chrisitiansingles all followed by .com.


Throwing in some levity just to keep you going.

I must stress that this is only my opinion.
Now as far as entertainment is concerned we have lost that all the way around. I wonder what Charlie Chaplin would say if he saw the Entertainment Industry today.

There is nothing out that compares to (dating myself) The Ed Sullivan Show, Sonny & Cher, Tom Jones(hold on picturing him taking off his bow tie Oh My), Carol Burnett, Hee Haw and Laugh-In for entertainment shows. I think you get the picture. I believe it was called Family Television but that was a different time I guess.

Here are you tube videos that are good ole family fun:


I must stress Again that this is only my opinion.
There are no true entertainers/artists out there that come close to Danny Kaye, Bob Hope, Dean Martin, Sammy Davis Jr., Gene Kelly, Debbie Reynolds. I could go on but I won't; those of you who understand know who the others are, those who don't understand it will not matter. These people could do it all sing, act, dance and stand-up, truly entertain people.

Apart from Peter Jackson(& a select few others, I am a Lord of the Rings girl) have we lost all our creative talent in this world can't say Hollywood since people are moving all over. We may not have had the technology 10 -20 years ago but we had creativity and imagination. (Wait imagination get the Ritalin it can't be imagination it is always ADHD) Does anyone remember just lying on the grass and staring at the clouds and making up what they looked like to them, rabbit, train :)? So what happens now, they are remaking movies because there is new dazzling technology to jazz them up. Seriously?

Since I have been house bound I can tell you more about narcissism, psychopaths and psychotic breaks than I ever wanted to even know. There are almost as many of these types of shows as there are Reality Shows. I have also learned all kinds of ways for weak women/men to kill people twice their size. I even checked to see if what I was watching was just made up nope looked on internet and they are legit.

So what does all this ranting boil down to:

Don't tell me we all have problems but it will be ok because there is no way to tell. No two people walk in the same shoes so what weighs heavy on one person soul doesn't necessarily weigh or even matter to the other. Don't tell me to hang on, it will be fine, the sun will come out tomorrow because I ain't Annie. There are no guarantees and for me folks it definitely isn't about the fucking journey or destination. Oh one last rant I am soooooooooo tired of when I tell someone something sad they feel the need to out do me by having a similar tragedy or event. That is one way of keeping up with the Jones that needs to be flushed, truth be told all the ways should be flushed. Then the same person tells me that I should try to stay focused, be positive and happy. Well hell if you surrounded by crap your gonna smell like crap. So go figure this out if I am down and all you do is try to compete with me about how bad everything is, how exactly do you expect me to be happy? Friendship folks for me is sharing good and bad. I don't expect for my friends to always be sunshine and joy because life gets in the way. The key is sharing both good and bad which means some days are up and others down. If all your days are nothing but consistent downers please don't expect me to jump for joy because I can't. One reason being your friend means that I care for you and Second reason if everything is bad for you and hurting, I will feel hurt for you as well.

So for me folks it is about trying to stay positive. The latest sliver of sunshine I have had is the birth of my adopted little sisters, across two oceans, new and first nephew. She knows how to share the good and the bad. Sometimes it is all good and sometimes not so much but she is a good person with a big heart. Her nephew will be seriously spoiled. I have a few people who have shown me great support you know who you are and I am grateful for your love and all you have done for me from rescue remedy to castor oil :). I have another good friend who is across one ocean but visits the USA with all that has transpired in the past six months in her family and country she still takes time to say Hi. She once got a shout out from me many, many months ago when she was being ignored and she has been by my side since. She says I am special folks. I love her but she sees me through rose colored glasses. It is time for a new RX.

To those of you who love me back at ya and those who don't or are talking and doing shit against me or anyone else I wish you love and Blessings also because Karma is a serious bitch.

Please do feel free to comment.

Peace Out

Friday, April 8, 2011

I thought this was worth reposting - Hearing versus Listening

Hearing versus Listening

As before I have put the definitions of the words I will be sharing with you at the end.

How many times have you been in a conversation with someone and in the middle of it they ask you, "are you listening to me"?

You may have found your mind wondering off as this person was talking, distracted by something else going around you. You are hearing the words but you are not listening to what message or concern is being conveyed.

We are all guilty of doing this but it does not justify the disservice you are giving the speaker or you as the listener. You never know what knowledge you may glean from paying attention. Also look at from the opposite perspective what if you were speaking to someone about a heart felt situation and they were only hearing you but not truly listening and would you want any advice from that conversation.

Now mind you, every conversation out there does not require 100 percent attention sometimes we just like to banter and joke, but if someone says I need to talk, put on blinders over your ears versus your eyes and give that person all of you.

It never hurts to listen and or be heard but it does hurt to be ignored or not feel worthy of the attention of someone you care about.

Until Next Time
Wishing you Peace, Love and Light
Crystal Spirit Guide



Main Entry: lis·ten
Pronunciation: \ˈli-sən\
Function: verb
Inflected Form(s): lis·tened; lis·ten·ing \ˈlis-niŋ, ˈli-sən-iŋ\
Etymology: Middle English listnen, from Old English hlysnan; akin to Sanskrit śroṣati he hears, Old English hlūd loud
Date: before 12th century
transitive verb
archaic : to give ear to : hear
intransitive verb
1: to pay attention to sound
2: to hear something with thoughtful attention : give consideration
3: to be alert to catch an expected sound

Main Entry: hearing
Function: noun
Date: 13th century
1 a: the process, function, or power of perceiving sound ; specifically : the special sense by which noises and tones are received as stimuli b: earshot
2 a: opportunity to be heard, to present one's side of a case, or to be generally known or appreciated b (1): a listening to arguments (2): a preliminary examination in criminal procedure c: a session (as of a legislative committee) in which testimony is taken from witnesses
3chiefly dialect : a piece of news

Courtesy of http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/